A man who does not respect you will never truly love you.
If a person does not know how to appreciate your original characteristics, just blindly ask you to change for him, then ask him to fall in love with himself!
When she first started dating her boyfriend, her friends envied her good luck, because he was not only good-looking, but also a master’s degree.
But the feeling between two people, she is “dumb eat yellow lotus”, bitter also can’t say.
From the beginning of their relationship, she realized that she was not as good as her partner in many aspects, and that her boyfriend set a lot of standards for her to meet.
First, he didn’t think she could speak English and asked her to take remedial classes. Then, he didn’t think her figure was good enough, so she spent a lot of money on fat pushing, oil pressure, body building and didn’t dare to miss a single aerobics class.
Later, her boyfriend began to criticize her for only having a high school education and asked her to attend college.
Death hard work for two years, although reluctantly admitted to the last volunteer, but born is not reading material of her, early almost removed half life.
Finally, she became more and more in line with her boyfriend’s criteria: a college degree, a decent English speaker, a beautiful body, and a fashionable designer.
She became her boyfriend’s “go-to date.”
However, she told me that whenever someone complimented her on her beauty, elegance, or good grooming, she felt both happy and uneasy.
Over the years, she seemed to have changed from a sparrow to a phoenix in physical and physical terms overnight, but her self-confidence had been crushed to pieces.
In order to keep this love, she lost all idea of life and direction except what her boyfriend wanted her to do.
In order to love, lost their own, one day, may even this love can not keep.
Her boyfriend moved on.
He met a girl who was exactly what he wanted without any change or effort, and he insisted on breaking up with her despite her efforts and everything she had done for him.
“Don’t you think you should appreciate what I asked of you in the past?
If it hadn’t been for me, you’d probably still be the humble shop assistant you used to be. Where would you be now?”
It made her heart bleed, but she was speechless.
He was right. If it hadn’t been for him, she wouldn’t be what she is today.
However, despite the change in her external image, she was still insecure inside. From head to toe, she never liked herself, even after having these external conditions.
After ending the relationship, she quickly moved on to another one.
But deep down, she always thought that she was not very good, and that it was a great gift to be liked.
So she abandons her ideas everywhere and puts her partner first.
She grew up in a family full of violent words. Her violent father did not often beat the family, but he always said three character classics or words such as “You die” and “you are a pig.”
Growing up in a family without love, she never has the ability to love herself, finally meet a love her, the only way she will use is total sacrifice and cooperation.
In intimate relationships, it is impossible to build good emotions without the concept of “willingness to cooperate”.
However, if only one party’s cooperation, the other party takes it for granted, or even takes it for granted, the relationship is bound to end in tragedy.
Within a few months, her new partner had left her.
After the breakup, she received a letter from her partner, which read: “You never have your own opinion, everything is just cooperate, in the end, I think there is no difference between you and you.
I can’t feel you, and I can’t love someone who doesn’t exist.”
Falling in love with a person, in addition to getting love from each other, the more precious thing should be to improve their sense of value.
Otherwise fall in love with a person, but therefore lose yourself, one day, this love will go with it!
Every human being comes into this world with the value of being human.
No one can add or take away your value but yourself.
It is not through beauty, wealth, love, achievement, intelligence, or any other outward expression that we can increase our sense of worth. It is only through self-confidence that we can acquire dignity.
Here’s what you can do to be happy: 1. Realize that self-esteem is something you can only have if you say you have it.
You have to love who you are, because whatever your flaws or accomplishments may affect how much applause you get from others, but they can’t prove how much self-esteem you have.
2. Remember one important thing: a person who doesn’t respect you will never truly love you.
If a person does not know how to appreciate your original characteristics, just blindly ask you to change for him, then ask him to fall in love with himself!
Besides, he may not even be able to do what he wants from you!
