One night when we were chatting, my husband told me that he had recently met a girl on the Internet named “Little Polar Bear”.
“Well, that’s an interesting name.”
I think of myself as a big woman, not just because my husband is chatting with others on the Internet.
So I said, “Yeah, it’s okay. Why?”
“I generally don’t like to add netizens on QQ.
Those people don’t talk seriously, they don’t mean anything.
However, the little polar bear is feeling well and is very thoughtful and well-written.”
It makes me a little uncomfortable to hear him speak so highly of another woman.
“Will you have me?”
“I blurted out.
“Of course, of course, which can compare with you.”
The husband see MY facial EXPRESSION IS wrong, immediately interface way.
I did not take this matter to heart, two people chat chat imperceptibly fell asleep.
I thought this was the end of it.
But a few days later, my husband mentioned this little polar bear in front of me.
“I sent her a song I recorded the other day.
She was very excited after hearing this, and said that if I hadn’t told her, she would have thought it was the original voice of Qi Qin.
She also sent me flowers on QQ like crazy.”
My husband is a fan, especially good at imitating Qi Qin’s voice.
Listening to him say so, my heart was suddenly jealous.
“Why are you so close to other women?”
“I couldn’t help saying.
“Wife, YOU SEE YOU, ALSO CASUALLY CHAT BETWEEN FRIENDS, YOU DON’T BE SO NARROW-MINDED.”
The HUSBAND A LITTLE COMPLACENT, “HOWEVER, you SAY YOUR husband is not still quite charming?”
See his frolic smile, my heart is not a dozen angry.
See ME AGAIN WANT TO CHANGE FACE, HUSBAND EXPLAIN WAY IMMEDIATELY: “BETWEEN US IF TRUE HAVE WHAT, I STILL DARE TO SAY WITH YOU?”
His words seem to have some truth, but my heart is a mute eat coptis – there is bitter can not say.
Speaking of, in fact, the husband is a very careful person, married to me is considerate.
But to my distress, something like this often happens.
That evening, just after dinner, the telephone rang.
“Feed, LILI,” THE HUSBAND PICKED UP THE TELEPHONE, “HOW, THE WORK GAVE a problem again?
Don’t worry. Take your time.”
Lili is the cousin of my husband’s hometown. She came to Beijing to work after graduation from technical secondary school.
Due to fierce competition and lack of professional skills, she hasn’t found a stable job in the past six months. She doesn’t have many friends in Beijing, so she calls her husband whenever she has any problems.
I found that my husband was particularly concerned about Lily. Every time he answered Lily’s phone, he was very patient, giving her advice and trying to find a way to tell her how to do it. And every time his voice was very big, as if he was afraid I didn’t know what he was saying.
Although the other side is her husband’s relatives, but to see her husband so warm-hearted to other girls, my heart is still uncomfortable.
Once or twice I didn’t say anything, but after a while I couldn’t stand it.
However, every time I see a pair of jealous appearance, the husband not only not worried, but smiled and said I was petty, also asked me if I was afraid of his charm is too big to control and so on.
Then he laid out a lot of reasoning to prove that there was nothing going on between them.
Many times, I always feel that the husband’s performance is a little strange, but strange where, I can not say clearly.
Five years ago, as a key member of our Marketing Department, I was sent by the government to attend a marketing training course.
In the training class, I got to know my husband. I was deeply impressed by his thin back figure and long hair with some artistic atmosphere.
Gradually, we got to know each other.
In getting along, I felt that he was very good at taking care of people, and his impression on me was very good. In this way, we unconsciously came together.
My husband is a very romantic and very considerate person, he has been holding me in the palm of his hand like a princess.
Although in the eyes of outsiders, we are very incompatible, but, as far as I am concerned, there is no incongruity, I rather enjoy my husband’s attention all the time.
A lot of women will worry about the husband flower heart, transference don’t love, this point, I am very at ease to the husband.
But I DO not KNOW WHY, IN these two years, although the husband is still so good to me, but his good is more and more “flood”, my husband also shift feelings don’t love?
Point COMMENT: WILL TELL COMMONLY, THE MAN IS MARRIED OUTSIDE “AMBIGUOUS” THE RELATION IS TO CONTAIN CERTAIN ILLICIT CLOSE SEX QUALITATIVE, THEY FEAR THE WIFE KNOWS.
However, the male protagonist in the story, whether chatting with the little polar bear on QQ or paying special attention to the distant cousin, is carried out under the eyes of his wife, lest the wife adults do not know.
So what was his motive?
The couple in the story belong to the typical strong woman and weak man type.
Ability, income, I’m afraid, together with education, husband are under his wife.
This kind of husband is very safe for the wife, it is easy to have an inferiority complex.
Therefore, he needs to find a way to prove his self-worth.
And he found his value in the presence of women who were in trouble and needed help.
Their affirmation and appreciation also brought some comfort to his relatively fragile self-esteem, which became the capital he showed off in front of his wife.
So he shows off just to prove his worth.
In fact, as the hero said, he is not shy, which is also that there is nothing between them.
So what’s a wife to do?
Eat vinegar appropriately, let him know that you care, but vinegar to eat just right, enough, otherwise, but will strengthen his behavior.
However, the key to solving the problem is to give her husband more encouragement and affirmation at ordinary times, so that he can realize his own value and enhance self-confidence.
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