She grew up poor and was born three years into a natural disaster.
Due to congenital malnutrition, her height as an adult is not more than 1.5 meters;
Because of poverty, she almost dropped out of high school. Later, it was her eldest brother who made a “sacrifice” for her, so that she had the opportunity to go to college and was admitted to graduate school after taking a job.
She has to complete her own scientific research projects and related research papers at work.
She has always believed in her talent in scientific research, and many people also believe that she will make outstanding achievements in scientific research.
But suddenly fate reaches out an invisible hand, and in an instant, silently, turns everything upside down…
In the car accident, I was destroyed Rong remembers that it was the last week of May 1990, I and three colleagues of the unit (we are a scientific research group) from the experimental base in the field back to catch up.
We had a good day at work, so we were very relaxed all the way back.
In the car’s rapid driving, the warm wind constantly blowing in the face, with a smell of grass fragrance, imperceptibly even let a person have a sleepy……
I do not know how long after, I subconsciously opened my eyes and looked at the watch, at 3 p.m., and in a little while it will enter the urban area of Changchun.
I straightened up, straightened up, and was about to pass a large van not far ahead of me.
At the moment when the two cars were running side by side, there was a sudden screeching sound of brakes. I only felt a brief sharp pain in my head, and then I knew nothing more…
When I felt the pain again, I felt vaguely that I was still in the bumpy road. I seemed to hear someone calling me urgently.
My efforts to lift my head were met with a sharp, tearing pain.
My whole face seems to be covered with something thick and sticky!
It took all my strength to make a weak sound. I asked my colleagues to help me up. They told me I couldn’t move.
I barely opened my eyes a crack, and in the rearview mirror, I saw a mangled face!
I’m desperate!
Suddenly let out a scream and reached for the handle of the car door — what was I to live for?
But after a struggle, I fainted again…
It was only long after that that terrible moment dawned on me.
Because of the illegal overtaking, our car got under the big truck, which was also speeding.
The car I was in was a “right rudder car”, and I happened to be sitting on the left side of the passenger seat, so the other colleagues all survived, except me seriously injured!
All my injuries were to my head — a severe blow to the brain, a badly mangled face, multiple missing teeth, and a badly displaced left eye!
I’m totally disfigured!
At that time, I was just 26 years old!
Not long ago, I had just started a relationship (which I lost shortly after the accident)!
The next emotion, really do not know how to describe: despair!
The pain is unbearable!
I want to die!
But in the end, I was still in the crying relatives, in the extreme pain and suffering, began seven years of long treatment.
In the previous four years, I had five plastic surgeries before I was barely fit enough to see anyone.
But with the gradual facial repair, cranial nerve sequelae are becoming more apparent day by day.
My memory has deteriorated so much that I can no longer remember many things, including important ones.
Through diagnosis, confirm my cranial nerve already atrophy!
I was just under 30, I was so young — the diagnosis was definitely another shock!
Next, I began three years of treatment!
But until now, my left eye is still not even closed when sleeping, because of so many years of eye fatigue, my left eye vision has declined sharply, is almost zero!
And affected by the left eye, my right eye vision has been very weak!
For a young life, what kind of life will there be?
I dare not think!
Before the wedding, the groom disappeared in 1994, another season of spring and summer.
After almost all the plastic surgery treatments had come to an end and the cranial nerve sequelae had just been diagnosed, the head of the unit came to talk to me and told me that my current physical condition was no longer suitable for scientific research and that I would be transferred to other departments to do routine writing work.
I have been deprived of my health and my original appearance, and now I have been deprived of the right to engage in research projects – how am I to accept this?
The night before my 29th birthday, I couldn’t sleep.
Thinking of what I could have done with another life, thinking of the disaster that fell from the sky, thinking of the experiences and sufferings of the past few years, thinking of the unknown life ahead, I wrote down something — all the words were filled with my pain, struggles, hopes and dreams…
Then I put those words into a media outlet and it was accidentally published.
Not long after, I received a phone call from a strange man. He said that he was in tears after reading my article, and he sincerely admired me and appreciated me, and hoped to become friends with me.
Out of politeness, I talked to him casually, saying that I was not as nice as he said and thought, and he still insisted that he be allowed to call me more often.
His name is Ming Zhe.
After that, he often called me and I got to know him a little bit.
His status is very special, I am not at liberty to disclose (this is also to respect their entire organization and the leadership who has helped me a lot later, please understand).
It is his special status, let me have more trust and respect for him.
Then he asked me to be his girlfriend, and I said no.
But no matter how I refused, he persisted stubbornly.
Finally, one day, we met.
As soon as he saw me, he smiled and said, “How can you speak so badly of yourself? Isn’t that good?”
I felt a lot happier.
After that, he was nicer to me.
But I was instinctively more and more resistant to him, even in an extreme way to deliberately stab him.
Later, my family couldn’t see past it. They said, “You should feel blessed when someone is so nice to you. How could you be so naive and indifferent to others?”
Under the “critical education” of my family, I began to “reflect deeply” and tried to start a serious relationship with him.
Due to the particularity of his work, we could not get married. After careful discussion between him and his superiors, we registered in advance in 1996.
And so it went for three years.
On New Year’s Day 1999, we finally decided to get married.
But I didn’t see any sign of him until the day before the wedding.
I had to call his work and ask if he had a special assignment.
His boss was surprised, saying that he had asked for wedding leave a few days before, and joked: “How could you lose the groom?”
Put down the phone, I really don’t know whether to laugh or cry — the bridegroom inexplicably disappeared, this marriage how?
I’ve only seen this on TV…
When I was in a fog, a stranger called me, explaining that Zhe was not sincere to me, but only out of gratitude and gratitude. (Before our registration, he applied for a further study in a university in their organization, and our family helped him with all their efforts;
And when his employer issued the certificate for us to register, he also knew something about me. To some extent, his choice also won him a lot of political capital).
The hands that held the phone began to sweat, and I trembled.
Later through various channels, I finally found out that he was in Harbin, with a woman.
After confirming the fact, I contact with his unit again, hope they can go out of the procedure to help us deal with “divorce”.
But his employers kept brokering a divorce, saying it would kill his political career.
Then I went to Harbin, and I found him, and I saw the woman.
I told the woman in my heart that if they were truly in love, I would step aside to make it happen.
But she said he’d run away when he was supposed to be married, and she’d never have been with him if she’d known…
He followed me back.
I’ve been advising him to consider a divorce, and he’s always said no, and he’s promised he won’t do it again.
But how could I possibly be in the mood to get married under these circumstances?
So in the whole postponed a year later, that is, 2000 New Year’s day, his unit came forward for us to make up the wedding.
It was a beautiful wedding, but from the moment I walked him down the aisle, I couldn’t imagine what it would be like at the end of the aisle…
That same year, I gave birth to my daughter, and her parents arrived from their rural hometown in the south.
But because I gave birth to a girl, they left without saying goodbye the day after my C-section.
Later I found out that they had not left. Ming Zhe had rented a house for them near his work, and they had been living there for a long time.
At THE END OF the SAME year, I finished my maternity leave and returned to the unit to report for duty. As a result, I was told that the unit carried out personnel reform and re-determined the post, without my position!
Since then, my life has entered another frosty period — my career has long been out of the question, and as the only support and security of marriage, but again appeared more awkward situation…
In fact, not long after I gave birth, Mingzhe didn’t come home much — either to his parents’ house or to work.
Once my child was ill, I had no money at all. In the middle of the night, I held the child with a high fever and cried for a long time. Then I suddenly realized that I held the child and hurried to his parents’ home.
When they finally got there, they said he had not returned from his shift at work;
I picked up the child ran to his unit to find, but the unit said he should not be on duty, he went home early.
Later, it was his leader who sent a message to him: “Your home is occupied, go back quickly!”
He did not return until the next midnight, and a woman followed him!
I couldn’t believe my eyes, shame, anger, sadness, all at once, I asked the woman who is, she unexpectedly bully and shameless said: “You care who I am!”
