Numerous scientific studies have revealed how people fall in love and have inspired techniques that can enhance romantic relationships. Here is a list of 10 research studies that inspired me to compile new techniques for building love.
- Passion. People are more likely to form emotional connections during moments of passion, such as sports, adventure, or being in danger. If you don’t believe it, try the roller coaster and make your love full of passion.
- Proximity and familiarity. Even just being around someone can help create positive feelings. When two people consciously and discreetly allow each other to enter their private spaces, intimacy can quickly increase and love can heat up.
- Similarity. While distance creates beauty, people generally prefer to be paired with people who are similar in intelligence, background, and attractiveness level. Some studies even show that intimacy can only be enhanced by imitating others.
- Humor. Happy long-term partners often make each other laugh. Women prefer men who make them laugh – probably because we feel relaxed when we are laughing. You can tell jokes, why don’t you give it a try? See if you can get a good love.
- Freshness. It’s easier for people to get close when they try something new. Freshness makes this closeness stronger and it makes people feel at ease.
- Release the heart defense. Countless relationships may begin with a glass of wine. Psychological defenses prevent us from taking off our personas, so removing the defenses like drinking alcohol can really help people build emotional connections. However, being drunk can be confusing and debilitating. Is there a good alternative to alcohol? Try the “two-in-one” practice.
- Kindness, tolerance and forgiveness. We are more inclined to develop relationships with people who are kind, delicate, and considerate. Considering and consciously giving up bad habits such as drinking and smoking for the needs of the other person can quickly inspire feelings of love. Forgiveness often leads to relief on both sides, because when one begs for forgiveness, the other cannot help but forgive the other.
- Physical contact. The simplest touch can also create a warm and positive feeling, and a touch on the back can create even more exotic sensations. Even just getting as close to someone as possible without actually touching it can have an effect. Sexual contact also makes people feel closer emotionally than in other ways, especially for women. But it’s also dangerous: it’s easy to confuse love with sexual attraction. You can’t fall in love with someone without knowing the other person; physical attraction also prevents people from understanding the more important qualities of a partner.