There is an old saying in China: “Teach your children in front of you, and teach your wife behind your back.” However, in Sweden, the practice is the opposite: do not teach children in front of others! This kind of concept and behavior of teaching children truly reflects the respect parents have for their children’s personality! What I saw in Sweden Smell, we are all refreshed. Swedes treat their children with great respect from the day they are born. They generally believe that a child is an individual life and should have its own independent will and personality. No one, including parents, has the right to go against the child’s will and obliterate the child’s personality. Swedish parents show respect for their children in the specifics of their lives. For example, when Swedish parents are talking to their children, they all squat down and “be consistent” with their children. This action is intended to tell the child: we are equal. When parents talk to their children, their tone is also “gentle and drizzle”, rarely “command”, mostly “if you can do that, my mother and I will be very happy”, “you can do this, We feel very relieved”, allowing children to freely choose the right method or practice under the “big box” of parental guidance.
The most prominent manifestation of Swedes’ respect for children is that they never teach their children in front of others. Swedes generally believe that children also have self-esteem, and parents must respect their children’s self-esteem and protect their children’s “face” under any circumstances. This is a shortcut and an important way to develop their self-confidence. In China, it is almost common for parents to scold their children loudly in front of everyone, calling them “really worthless”, “really stupid”, “unsatisfactory things” and so on.
The Swedes believe that this method of education is simply a crime! Because it will seriously damage the child’s self-esteem and will cause lifelong “low self-esteem” to the child. We also found that Swedish parents respected their children’s educational methods, and received immediate results: in Sweden, we saw that children were warm and generous, polite, and calm when things went wrong. of ingenuity and never “stage fright”. This is the result of a long-term “respect for education” by Swedish parents.
On the campus of the Plenton School in Stockholm, the capital of Sweden, there is a famous quote from John Locke, a famous British philosopher, thinker, and educator in the 18th century: “The less parents don’t publicize their children’s faults, the more their children value their own reputation. Therefore, they will be more careful to maintain the praise of others. If parents publicly declare their faults and make them feel ashamed, the more they feel that their reputation has been damaged, the less they will defend their reputation.” This is probably Sweden. Let’s take a look at the “theoretical roots” of people’s “respect for education”.
