Ten years tin wedding in April 2008, in a five-star hotel in Chongqing, white roses, white lilies, white gauze curtain……
With soft and romantic music playing, my husband Wang Yi (pseudonym) and I held hands like newlyweds and walked onto the stage in the center of the banquet hall amid the blessings of our friends and relatives.
This is the ceremony Wang Yi planned for our 10th wedding anniversary.
Compared with our simple, borrowed wedding 10 years ago, the ceremony was grand enough to make anyone in the dark envy.
Standing on the stage, holding the microphone, I don’t know what to say when I see the smiles of my relatives and friends.
“We’ve come a long way over the years…”
As soon as I opened my mouth, I couldn’t go on. I just kept crying.
Many people thought these were tears of happiness, and some people kept clapping to encourage me to continue.
They don’t know that just three months ago, my husband cheated on me and our marriage by having an affair with a female subordinate.
And it’s only been a year since I found out about his last emotional affair.
I don’t know why Wang Yi planned this ceremony. Is it his confession or his sincerity to me?
Because when I found out about his affair and asked for a divorce, he put his foot down and said he never wavered in my place in his mind.
Time, with 10 years as a unit, is unusually thin, fragile, perishable.
Ten years of marriage is a tin marriage — pliable and unbreakable like a tin jar, but what about my marriage?
After graduating from college 11 years ago, I was assigned to a large enterprise and started my career with a salary of more than 700 yuan.
I got to know Wang Yi, who is 8 years older than me and is in charge of the personnel department of our unit. He is the person to whom new people report for duty and handle relevant procedures. I gradually got acquainted with him.
The PERSON THAT SEES HIM FAST RUSH 30 STILL HAS NO GIRL FRIEND, I INTRODUCED TWO GIRLS TO HIM ENTHUSIASTICALLY, IT IS THE COLLEAGUE THAT ENTERS UNIT TOGETHER WITH ME, BUT ONE ALSO DID NOT SUCCEED.
We were colleagues and friends as usual, and even now I can’t remember if he ever courted me, or sent me flowers or wrote me love letters. We started dating naturally.
In fact, I was much better at that time in terms of appearance and family conditions.
My father is a manager of a company, my mother is a teacher, and his family is from the countryside, with two younger brothers and sisters.
Perhaps because I am the most favored youngest daughter in the family, my parents did not oppose us much. They think Wang Yi is down-to-earth and family conditions are not a big problem.
A little over a year later, we decided to get married.
Wang Yi’s family could not afford the money, so we borrowed money to hold a simple wedding in a small restaurant.
At that time two brother’s husband sighed 1: Little sister this life is over.
I don’t care. My heart is full of happiness.
Newly married, Wang Yi hugged me and said he wanted to thank his cousin for letting him have me.
He told me that when I introduced him to my girlfriend, his cousin said that Liu Sisi was the most suitable wife among the three girls.
After marriage, the unit gave us a dormitory, 14.5 square meters, I will always remember that cabin.
During the newlywed period, Wang Yi’s friends often came to our house. A group of young people ate and drank, making a lot of noise, and the small space was full of laughter and laughter.
It was an unusually happy time.
Soon after his marriage, Wang Yi had the opportunity to go to Japan to study for half a year. Seeing his hesitation and reluctance, I gave up his worries.
We found a relationship to solve the problem of his sister’s work. I promised that I would take care of his brother’s tuition and living expenses, and assume all the responsibilities of a sister-in-law.
Wang Yi went to Japan and I got on well with his family.
Half a year passed quickly. After coming back from Japan, Wang Yi decided not to take the current position and applied to the sales front.
Everyone knows, in our company sales change money, but also hard.
He said he wanted to give me a better life, hard is nothing.
He is busy from dawn to dusk every day. I take care of all the things in the family and don’t let him worry about it.
A year later, the sales company wanted a general manager. With his ability and drive, Wang Yi beat the competition.
In the first year after he took over, sales increased two or three times and Wang Yi was recognized by everyone.
After the New Year celebration, Wang Yi came home, hugged me and said emotionally: Wife, I can’t leave you all my life.
Happiness filled the cabin that night.
Our living conditions soon improved, we bought a big house and moved out of the cottage.
I’d rather live there for the rest of my life if I knew what would happen next.
After three years of marriage, we have a baby girl, Wang Yi, who is a new father and is filled with great joy.
Even though he was busier and more sociable, he would come home and stare at his daughter, shake her tender hand and say, “Baby, baby, grow up.”
He was full of tenderness for both my daughter and me.
On one of our visits to our hometown, a large truck that was traveling in the same direction on the highway leaned on its side and was propped up by a long, thick stick. Passing cars had to get through the gap between the truck and the stick.
Wang Yi said to me with no discussion of the tone: wife, you hold the daughter first walk past, I slowly drive over.
Watching him carefully drive the little Alto, I deeply felt his love for me and my daughter.
Such a man, I never thought he would betray me.
The quiet and happy life lasted until the end of 2006.
That day, I clean up the house, ready to Wang Yi eliminated a mobile phone to give people, I opened the mobile phone to put the contents of all clear.
As a result, I found two obscene text messages from female subordinates whom he often praised in front of me for their excellent work ability.
I was stunned. I couldn’t do anything. I waited for Wang Yi to come home.
When I showed him the text, he quipped that it was normal for colleagues to send text messages.
I almost growled. Is it normal to be so naked?
Wang Yi has never seen me like this, repeatedly pressed, he finally admitted and that female colleague is more ambiguous.
When my family knew about this, they all stood on my side and denounced Wang Yi. He promised to ask the woman out and have a face-to-face interview with her.
Wang Yi and the woman admitted their mistake and promised it would never happen again.
Soon the woman quit her job and our lives seemed to be at peace again.
The pain in my heart only oneself know, he said the work pressure is big, I decorate the house alone, education take care of the children, the family management is warm.
When he came home for dinner, it was like a festival.
Why can’t he take care of my feelings?
I saw a psychiatrist with the help of a friend, and it took me a long time to recover.
At the end of 2007, my friend told me that Wang Yi had a very unusual relationship with a little girl.
Last time not easy scab wound, suddenly was torn.
This time, I had a better mind.
In January 2008, Wang Yi was ill at home, and I left the recording pen open in a humble place while I was out.
Sure enough, I recorded a breakdown of the conversation, the husband said the disgusting sweet words.
I rushed to his office like crazy. Wang Yi refused to admit having an affair.
I did what even I thought was unthinkable and drove into Wang Yi’s car parked below the company.
I scared him, told him I had evidence, and he said he was drunk and he did something wrong.
I asked the three of us to talk about it together. I asked him to say what he really thought in front of that girl. He agreed.
In the teahouse, the three of us sat together, and I kept looking at the girl, who was in her early 20s and brimming with youth.
As a result of the conversation, Wang Yi said in front of the girl that he loved me and could not leave me, and at my already irrational request, he slapped the girl twice in the face in front of me.
The girl left crying with shame.
I think if Wang Yi does not love me, I can help him divorce.
I really glad that I did not give up work, although the income is not high, but the heart steadfast, to support their own no problem, otherwise how can I have the courage.
But Wang Yi firmly disagreed, in order to prove his love for me, he asked a lawyer to write an agreement, put all our property in my name, a few houses, a few cars and savings, that is a large sum of money.
However, he has deceived me too much. When a person tells a lie, he will use ten or a hundred lies to answer it. How can I still dare to believe him?