Living in this world, everyone is insecure. A heart, the most difficult amount. Most people can see through things, but can’t see through people, so they spend a lot of time in vain. If you can’t see people, you can’t do anything. Let’s see what happens to the human heart. Some people like to sleep curled up beside their bed. Often, this is a pessimistic gesture. Of course, such people are mostly rational and rarely have emotional impulses. In other words, they are born pessimists, they dare not let go of their hearts to express their emotions, and their attitude towards the future is often uncertain, all of which stem from their inner unease. When interacting with this type of person, you must plan solutions for all obstacles that may be encountered in the future for him, and you must give him the confidence to overcome difficulties, so that he can truly trust you. Others like to cover their mouths with their hands when they laugh. In ancient costume dramas, all beauties pay attention to smiling without showing their teeth. Whenever Wu Er, there are always a few jade fingers to cover the cherry mouth. Many modern women often have a similar mood. However, don’t think that this is just a ladylike gesture, hiding a smile with your hands, most of which are a manifestation of being wary of the person opposite. This is a very interesting group of people. They don’t have many real friends, but they can all be friends. They are easy-going and courteous to anyone other than their friends, but they will never reveal their sincerity. make it harder. This is a person who has long been suspicious of the world. They are too heavy-hearted, put too much pressure on themselves, and often have an unbearable loss in life. If they are your friends, remember not to interfere with their normal thinking with trivial things; if they are your opponents, also remember that just some gossip is enough to make them restless. This type of people, because they lack a firm sense of security in their hearts, are most easily disturbed by external disturbances.
Others never dare to look each other in the eye. These people tend to be autistic. Eyes are the most real heart of a person. When a person refuses to communicate with each other with sincerity, it shows the closedness in his character. These types of people are not bad people, they even have the softest hearts, but the shyness in their characters often makes them feel at odds with the world, they dare not intuit each other, they just lack a means of communicating with the outside world. For this kind of person, we must know how to soften him with love, and we must learn to infect him subtly in the details of life. A shy child will always rely on “mother” the most. Still others can laugh at themselves in the face of compliments. The modern social language advocates this view: “When you are complimented by others, you have to express denial immediately. This is a kind of self-humility and can exchange for a better impression on the other party.” Indeed, this method itself is not a problem, but if Take a closer look at life, experience discovery, and face compliments. People who can laugh at themselves humorously have a different meaning. Not accepting each other’s compliments reflects his unwillingness to accept each other’s friendship. On the surface, this kind of person is smart, humorous, humble and cheerful, but in fact he has a deep disdain for interpersonal communication. They have a strong sense of self and are well versed in the various phenomena behind social interaction. They can see through the human heart, so they have a deeper sense of unease towards the human heart. When a person is calm and self-controlled in the face of your lavish compliments, probably, he really has no intention of being your friend. If you are smart, you should be businesslike and don’t expect more.
When working with an insecure person, remember not to rush to develop him into your own, insecure person. It shows that he has a sense of distance from the world in his heart, and to influence him hastily will only be self-defeating. What you can do is to be businesslike, and when three or five rounds of cooperation are happy, he is really likely to open his heart to you. An insecure person needs security most, and the security that he can trust most is justice.
